Digging to the root of the issues and breaking toxic cycles…

Most people have some aspects of themselves that they would like to change. But how often do you dig deep to find the root of the problem?

You have to address the issues that need to be changed. Without doing this you will be stuck in a cycle of trying to change but you won’t make much progress. Denying that there is something holding you back doesn’t make it disappear or magically turn you into who you want to be.

In the absence of reflection, history often repeats itself.


In the past, I would continuously run far away from my pain. I would bury it deep inside of me and cover it with a smile on my face. Instead of addressing the issue, I would develop unhealthy behaviors that appeared on the outside to look a lot like success – just for praise or to feel better about myself. This was a cycle I needed to break.

But in this new chapter, I have chosen to look at my reflection, heal and love myself while completely putting an end to all toxic habits, self-destructive behaviors while breaking the generational curses that are coming forth. Sometimes you have to be honest with yourself and dig deeper to the root of the issues.

You can’t change what you don’t accept. So if you have problems accepting what you need to change, you’re going to have more problems making that change.

If you want more money in your life and are having problems achieving that you need to dig deeper to find something you may have missed about yourself. Do you have any long-held beliefs about money that would prevent you from attracting what you say you want in your life?

Personally, there was a time in my life where I would spend my entire day over-working and over-achieving for an organization, that didn’t really appreciate me – refused their promises of a promotion and salary increase, and then at the end of the day wrongfully terminated me. I sacrificed all of my time, stopped pursuing my dreams and lacked the ability to make more money because I desired to feel important and valued by people who never cared about me in the first place. My job took advantage of my insecurities and played a major role in breaking down my mental health. This contributed to a cycle of self-destructive beliefs that I needed to break and in return seek out ways to receive justice and heal my Spirit.

There was also a time, I spent money on things and people who didn’t value me and to ease the pain I would begin self-medicating. I also found myself continuously going back & forth in toxic relationships for years – giving everything to a man who never intended on loving me back. My partner would consistently cheat on me, leave me for months, and I would always allow him to come back after because I felt I needed him in order to survive. He would use me and then lie to others about it to diminish my character.  I experienced a lot of mental and emotional abuse, and I allowed it every time. After 7 years, he decided to marry another woman with the engagement ring we picked out together in a matter of a few months.

After all of this, I realized that I accepted this behavior because I just wanted to feel loved, valued and appreciated for my worth – outside of myself because I was lacking it internally. I was insecure and consistently looking for happiness, peace, and pleasure because I didn’t have it within. Even at the expense of my own health, finances, and self-worth, I would sacrifice everything I had to appease my own insecurities. These self-destructing behaviors stemmed from beliefs that I was unworthy and I had to settle for less than I deserved. I was afraid to have boundaries with my job and the people I loved because I felt “people wouldn’t like me anymore.” Settling prevented me from attracting the things I desired most. This was my ugly truth. It made me stronger, wiser and better in the end. But the process of healing, letting go and releasing false narratives about myself was painful. I had to let go and break the cycles. Until you are honest with yourself, address your issues, and accept the lesson you won’t be able to attract the things you desire most into your life.

Our thoughts, feelings and beliefs are what shape our reality. If you think you want better love, more money and success in your life – but your beliefs don’t match what you’re thinking and feeling it’s going to be difficult to attract it into your life.

There may be times when money will show up for you but you won’t have the steady flow that you want to achieve. Not until you accept that you have limiting beliefs about money and then change them.

You say you want to find your soul mate, your other half. But the people who keep showing up in your life don’t fit the bill. You’re starting to wonder if you will ever meet Mr. or Ms. Right. He or she is out there somewhere but do you have any beliefs about yourself that might be holding you back from attracting that perfect mate?

Again, you need to dig deep and search for any limiting beliefs or fears you might have about yourself and/or relationships. Until then know that the perfect relationship will come at the perfect time.

Remember that the answer always lies within. Resisting and denying aspects of yourself won’t get you to where you want to be in life. Only by digging out beliefs that don’t serve you well and accepting them as no longer being useful to you can you make a change in a positive direction.

Affirm: I am learning my lessons, breaking toxic cyles and moving forward so my bloodline will inherit health, wealth, prosperity, and abundance we deserve.

I am retiring outdated frames of thinking, careers that only misuse and abuse me, and love that only hurts by digging deep to the root of the issues.

You don’t have to settle for being another sad story or the victim in this book, just completely close the chapter, and start a new page to becoming a spiritual warrior…

This is your season to win. Please don’t look back. 

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